I am someone who tends to overthink things; I worry about things that don’t deserve my immediate attention and in the long run are pointless. I think this is a big factor in my anxiety. Anxiety is something that is extremely common and I know many people who suffer from this as well. Just because it is common doesn’t mean it should be overlooked. It is something that alters the way I act around people and the way I approach social situations.
Something that someone told me once often pops into my head; we are constantly in our heads. The thought is sort of hard to explain but basically, you are with yourself all the time. Chances are, when you find yourself obsessing over something embarrassing that might have happened to you, no one else is thinking about it but you. The people who you might be worried that are lingering over a little mistake you might have made 30 minutes ago are most likely doing their own hyper-analyzing of their actions, completely oblivious to yours. The point is, it’s only you. You are your worst critic. I struggle with remembering this but when I do it really helps me step back and look at the situation from a different perspective. Coming into social situations with this thought in mind, I feel like I can more easily be myself since I am not as concerned about people critiquing my every move. Obviously, there will be people out there that might look for fault in your actions, but you just have to learn to say, “Fuck that, I am going to be myself and I don’t give a shit what you think.” Because in the end, thats what its really all about… Right?!
-- Thanks Camille Boylan for helping me write this